Words That Rewire You.
Not just products. Not just words.
Tools designed to meet you where it still hurts, and help you move forward.
At The Self Ally, healing is not something we demand, it's something we invite.
Whether you're ready to speak, write, read, or feel, our offerings are crafted to help you reconnect with the Self behind the survival.
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Letters That Hold You.
Books That Guide You.
The Story Behind the Words
The Self Ally creates emotionally intelligent tools for people healing from trauma, including guided journals, support letter sets, 1:1 sessions, and somatic events.
Founded by Liz Öncel, an Integrative Trauma Practitioner with backgrounds in neuroscience and clinical psychology, we blend evidence-based practices with poetic precision. Every offering is designed to help you rewire your self-talk, rebuild inner trust, and feel safe in your voice again.
This isn’t self-help as a quick fix.
This is self-leadership, in your language.
Built for Nervous Systems,
Not Algorithms
Science
Rooted in Neuroscience & Psychology
Every tool is backed by evidence-based practices to support real nervous system change.
Credibility
Therapist-Designed, Reader-Trusted
The Self Ally’s tools are used in 15+ countries by therapists, coaches, and everyday humans doing the work.
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Giftable
Giftable, Beautiful, Frame-Worthy
Our products are designed for real healing and real life, elegant enough to display, meaningful to gift, and grounding to return to again.
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Language
Crafted for Emotional Fluency
Our letter sets and journals help you name what hurts, translate what’s unspoken, and build an inner voice that feels like safety.
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Choice
Prewritten or Guided — You Choose
we offer both prewritten emotional letters and structured journaling prompts to meet you exactly where you are.
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Depth
Gentle Enough for Survivors, Deep Enough for Seekers
We speak to the nervous system with nuance.
More Than Words. Pathways Back to You.
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1:1 Trauma-Informed Sessions
Receive trauma-informed personalized support with Liz Oncel, an Integrative Trauma Practitioner, self-help Author, & Founder of The Self Ally.
Perfect for those navigating complex trauma, burnout, or profound inner shifts.
Limited spots available.
Guided Journals & Workbooks
Our bestselling journals combine neuroscience, clinical psychology, and compassionate reparenting prompts to help you build a relationship with your Self that’s grounded, kind, and true.
Featured: Self-Talk Guided Journal
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Healing Letter Sets: “Read When…” Emotional Support Letters
Prewritten, trauma-informed letters for the parts of you that still need to be heard.
Each set addresses real emotional themes — shame, anger, grief, self-worth — in a voice that feels safe and validating.
Giftable, frameable, and unforgettable.
Somatic & Expressive Events:
Live Workshops for Inner Connection
Join Liz for live sessions blending embodiment, parts work, expressive writing, and nervous system regulation.
From “Body Trauma Liberation” to “Inner Landscape,” each event invites you to meet yourself — gently and courageously.
In Chicago & online.
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Where My Work Goes Deep
Trauma-Informed Support
Integrating neuroscience, psychology, and somatic approaches to address complex trauma, nervous system regulation, and emotional resilience.
Self-Talk Repair
Helping you identify, reframe, and rewrite the inner dialogue that shapes your mental and emotional landscape.
Therapeutic Writing Tools
Creator of “Read When…” and “Write When…” — emotionally intelligent letter sets and guided journals designed to give words to what’s been unsaid.
Parts Work & Internal Family Systems
Guiding you to meet, understand, and integrate your inner parts with compassion and leadership.
Somatic & Narrative Practices
Combining body-based awareness with the power of personal storytelling to support long-term self-trust and growth.
Come As You Are.
Leave With More of You.
Words That Hold. Tools That Guide. Stories That Shift.
